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What We Bought for Our First Baby & Why

George & myself have been trying to live as mindfully as we can the last couple of years. We aim to only buy what we need & think about each purchase before going through with it. This avoids impulse spending and the over consumption of commercial items.

 

We wanted to apply our beliefs to the process of shopping for our first baby. There are so many options out there of “must haves” for having your first child that decision fatigue can happen very fast and mindless spending can occur very quickly. The fact that all baby stuff is super cute doesn’t help how hard it is to say no.

 

The process we went through to choose what we really needed was pretty easy. We started to look up bloggers who live the same lifestyle as us. We checked out their blogs to see if they wrote anything on what they got for their new born, what worked & what didn’t. Basically, we took their advice and made a list of essential items from what they suggested from their experience. Alison Mazurek in particular from  http://www.600sqft.com/about blog was huge help to us. She wrote a brilliant blog on what they needed and what she would recommend for a new born. (See post here)

 

We took that list and decided that’s what we will use. I believe doing your research is key to investing in any purchase. When someone who lives likes you & you respect has done the research and recommends something, I always take their opinions very seriously.

 

Alison’s list was so helpful as she has researched items for their design and for how well they would work in a small space. We live in a one-bedroom apartment and are not planning on moving to a larger place. With clever design & an open mind a one-bedroom apartment can work wonderfully with a baby.

 

Please see the list of items we bought below:

 

Item Bought Reason Second hand Price
Bugaboo Bee Stroller in Red Folds small, fits in hall closet & great for city $350
Maxi Cosi car seat in Red Great reviews & fits our stroller $75
Nuna Leaf baby chair Neutral Beige Nice design & fits in our closet $100
Monte Rockwell Bassinet Nice design, light for moving & doesn’t take up too much space in bedroom $200
Puj Tub in Grey Folds flat & can be used camping $15
Ergo Baby Carrier Grey Best rated baby carriers which we can face baby both front & back $165
Gathre Leather changing mats Great for on the go & replaces baby changing table $90

These are the major equipment items we bought. We sourced all from Facebook market place. Once we had the list of items we needed, we kept an eye out on Facebook market place for these items to pop up. We started sourcing the items from 6 months into the pregnancy. To be honest Vancouver is an excellent place to shop on Facebook market place for babies & children. There are so many new families here. The only item from the list we bought new were the Gathre Leather changing mats. These we bought online at www.gathre.com. The above list in total came to less the $1000, the stroller new alone would cost more than that.

 

We also created a little capsule wardrobe for our baby, only sourcing clothing which we need and not having too much of the one thing. We are planning on writing another blog on new born clothing essentials. Again, we researched online for what a new born needs and created an essential list from that. The majority of clothing was bought pre-used and were given to us by friends. Any pre-used clothes given to us we sorted through and kept only what we needed, the rest we donated.

 

The reason why we chose the above items came down to design & functionality. We love the look of all the items we bought and they work so well in a small space. The bugaboo stroller folds small and it fits into our hall closet. I really like to hide things away in closets and keep as much free space in our home as possible.

 

We didn’t believe a changing table was essential for our baby. Instead we purchased the Gathre leather changing mats (1 for the home & 1 for the travel bag). These mats can be placed on a bed, couch, floor, table, grass…. anywhere so a special table for changing didn’t make sense to us and it takes ups valuable space in our home.

 

The puj tub is super cute. As children we were washed in the kitchen sink, those photos are the best. The puj tub is like a foldable seat your child can sit in while being bathed in the sink. Our bathroom is old and the tub is really low. The idea of being able to wash our baby while standing at the sink is more appealing than bending down over a very low bath. The puj tub can then be unfolded into a flat surface and stored away very easily.

 

Shopping for all the above items on Facebook market place was so easy. Not only did we save so much money, we avoided having to go into shops & malls. Our weekends are precious to us and spending time shopping is at the bottom of our favourite things to do on our time off. In addition, avoiding stores also limits the commercial bombardment and the temptation of buying items which were not on our list. We searched for sellers around our area and scheduled to pick up items on our way home from work in the evenings. So simple & effective. Every person we bought from was great & had everything ready on time at pick-up.

 

Overall our experience of purchasing items for our baby has been so chill & easy. This method really worked for us. There was no stress involved, we had all the spare time we usually have on our weekends and we had no financial pressure as we bought the majority of our item pre-used.

 

We are hoping this will be helpful and if you have any questions or comments please feel free to leave them below.

 

Have a great week!

 

Chat soon,

 

Theresa xxxx

Our Decision to Breastfeed Our Baby: Why & How Are We Preparing for It?

Firstly, George & myself have tried to keep an open mind about all our decisions throughout this pregnancy. We understand that what we have planned may not work out. This applies to breastfeeding also. Coming from Ireland at a young age our exposure to breast feeding has been limited. At the beginning of our pregnancy I said to George that I would like to give breastfeeding a go but if for some reason it doesn’t work out then we will bottle feed our baby. I believe if the process is causing too much stress and disappointment then mother & baby are both suffering. We would like to avoid this situation at all cost.

 

Generally, when we make a decision, we do our research and prepare ourselves as much as possible to succeed, then if it doesn’t work out, we have the comfort of knowing we did all we could. We applied the same attitude to breast feeding. With limited exposure to breastfeeding other than feedback from friends in Canada (not all feedback was great) I decided I needed to learn more. Friends advise is great but everyone’s experience with breastfeeding is so unique, I wanted to speak to a specialist so they could explain why, how and the method of breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding for me did not seem like a natural thing. The idea of producing milk & feeding my child from my own body honestly was completely alien to me. I needed help and guidance to change my mindset so I could see this process as a natural & special connection with our baby.

 

The first step to expanding my knowledge was to download a book called “Guide to Breastfeeding” by Ina May. I would recommend every woman who is planning on breastfeeding to read this book. Ina May is a huge advocate for breastfeeding and gave solutions to all problems & issues that may arise during the process. She is convinced that all women can and should breastfeed. After reading this book it built up my confidence that if I am having trouble at any stage of feeding there is always a solution, for me that is very comforting.

 

During my pregnancy I have been diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes & my haemoglobin levels are way below average but I am non symptomatic. Having low iron levels & diabetes could make breastfeeding a little more complicated at the beginning. If myself or the baby are not so great after the birth, it may occur that I am unable to breastfeed right away. Also, if there are complications during the birth it may create a situation that breast feeding right away may not happen.

 

For the above reasons I wanted to meet with a lactation consultant so she could answer my questions which were very specific to my pregnancy and to help paint a picture of when breastfeeding begins, how to breast feed and how we could prepare for any situation after birth.

I searched online for a lactation consultant and found Mommy’s Milk (www.mommysmilk.ca). I booked a private at home consultation with Shannon Joyce at about week 28.

 

In addition to learning how to breastfeed and how we can prepare for complications I really wanted to know how to use a breast pump and when I could pump. A friend of mine gave me her pump and said it was so useful. George really wants to be involved in feeding the baby and I am all for it;-) Its just that I don’t know how to do it and when he can start feeding!

 

Shannon arrived in the afternoon on a Saturday, George left us so we could have the space to ourselves. Shannon asked what my expectations were from our meeting and I told her what I wanted to know. She was such a pleasant person & put me at ease straight away. She listened to all my concerns and passed no judgement just offered her knowledge and wisdom.

 

Shannon went through her presentation on her laptop with me which covered the topics below:

 

  • Benefits of breast feeding for mom & baby
  • How breastmilk changes
  • How milk production works
  • What we should expect in the first 24 hours
  • How to hand express
  • What is colostrum
  • Best time for breastfeeding
  • How often to breastfeed
  • What are babies hunger cues?
  • How to establish a good milk supply
  • Steps to a good latch
  • How to tell if your baby is getting enough milk
  • Frequency and duration of feeds
  • Pumping and storing breastmilk
  • Partner involvement in breastfeeding
  • Breast related concerns
  • When to seek help

To say I learned a lot is an understatement. The majority of the topics above I didn’t even think of before our session. For me the most relevant topic to my situation was that you can self-express from 37 weeks and store your colostrum in vials or syringes in the freezer. Therefore, if anything happens after the birth that I cannot feed my baby I will have a supply of colostrum ready for George to feed the baby until I have my energy back up. It may not come to that but I would like to prepare for it. This is the first time I ever heard of this and I’m sure I am not the only one.

 

After the presentation Shannon demonstrated how to set up, use & clean my pump. During the presentation she used puppets and props to give me excellent visuals of how you know your baby is latched on well and where the baby’s head, chin & nose should be positioned to get a great latch.

 

She insisted breastfeeding should not be a painful process, it may be uncomfortable for the first few moments but then it gets to feel more natural. She insisted that no one should have sore nipples or suffer when feeding. Her advice is to stop feeding and reposition the baby until it does not hurt even if the baby starts crying.

To say I gained knowledge and confidence from this experience is an understatement. Knowledge truly is power. I highly recommend spending the money on seeing a lactation consultant before your baby arrives. This is where your money is well spent, forget about fancy cribs & strollers…. spend the money on services like the above which will make your life and the baby’s life a lot easier from day 1.

 

I now have the confidence that I can breastfeed even if complications occur & I am looking forward to it which I never thought I would. I’m hoping it will be a time for myself & my little girl to bond and be happy. After 6 weeks George can then have this experience with feeding the breastmilk from a bottle and doing skin on skin with the little person.

 

We are excited about the idea of breastfeeding and will definitely give it our best shot! Hoping all works out but you just never know. I will write a follow-up blog to this on how it all went.

 

Thanks so much for reading,

 

Have a great week,

 

Chat soon,

 

Theresa

Our Experience with a Doula: A Private Session to Empower & Prepare both Parents for Birth

Honestly if you were to ask us what a Doula was 1 year ago, we both would have looked at you blankly with our mouths open. “Doula” seems to be the buzz word during this pregnancy. We get asked “Are you planning on have a doula during birth?”, “Are you going to hire a Doula?”, “Will a Doula help you after birth?” Midwifes, friends, work colleagues & people we don’t even know ask us these questions, and to be perfectly honest we said no because we didn’t know why you would want to hire a doula…. we didn’t know what they did or how they would add value to the whole experience. Researching doulas and their role during pregnancy was high on my list just to settle my own curiosity and to be able to give an educated answer when asked if we are planning on having a doula at birth.

 

Saturday afternoons I go to a prenatal yoga class in semperviva and the teacher is a Doula, Teresa Campbell. Teresa is an awesome yoga teacher and as a pregnant lady I feel safe and comfortable going to her classes. She gave hints of her role as a Doula throughout the class and it intrigued me. She has over 20 year’s experience and has seen hundreds of births. She mentioned that she was holding a prenatal couple’s workshop that would be beneficial for both partners & moms. Unfortunately, it was held on a weekend we had signed up for another yoga workshop and we could not attend. Instead we signed up for a private class with her in our home.

 

I had just finished the book called “The Fourth Trimester” by Kimberly Ann Johnson and had my midwife explain to me what the doula’s role is during birth. I had a much better understanding of a doula’s role before Teresa came to visit. Doula’s are present to take in the whole experience which cannot be done by doctors or midwives as they are so busy charting & documenting the mother & babies progress. The doula is person who can help with all the emotions that come up during birth and after for both partners, she/he is there to provide encouragement & confidence to both people. I see a doula as someone who is completely dedicated to the emotions and experience of the mother so the birth can be the most positive experience possible for the mother & partner.

 

The major reasons why we wanted to have time with a doula before birth were personal to us but maybe useful to others.

An observation we both had was that the role of the partner during pregnancy, birth and in the early months after birth is unclear and often the partner can be ridiculed for being useless or confused. I believe this is really unfair. The more support and guidance we can offer our partners during this huge life changing event the better. Yes, the mother & baby are so important and are the leading characters but we also need strong supporting partners to make everything run smoothly.

 

We are so lucky we live in a time where men are actively taking more of an equal role to raising their children. Moms are no longer expected to give up their jobs and take the soul responsibility of raising the children. The new modern dad carries the baby in the carrier, has skin on skin time with the baby to help with bonding, changes diapers, feeds the baby pumped breastmilk/formula, helps with night feeds, the list goes on. It truly is amazing how times have changed since my parents’ generation. This is something I am so grateful for, now let’s help our partners by providing them with the information & tools they need to feel useful, loved & appreciated.

 

The modern dad has come a long way and it is inspiring to watch but it has not been easy for them or their partners. There is not much support for men out there who want to be more involved. Their role can be unclear and confusing especially during the early months of birth. I think they can be overlooked for the value they can add and how helpful they truly can be during the whole process of pregnancy and after.

 

I believe we need to offer our partners a roadmap of how they can truly help. Who better to do this than an observer like a doula? They get to observe the dynamic of partners during the birth and after. They have witnessed so many births and situations where partners have been excellent help and where others were not as prepared. Why not seek advice from a person who knows what works during labour for both mom & partner and who can empower both people by sharing their experience, knowledge, do’s & don’ts.

 

 

When Teresa visited our home for our couples’ prenatal course, we started off the session with why we wanted to take part in the course. Basically, we wanted more of an insight to both of our roles and visuals of what the birth would potentially look like and what we may be doing during this time.

 

Teresa explained what things George could do to make the experience more comfortable for me.

Some suggestions were:

  • Ensuring I was drinking enough fluids and eating enough snacks
  • Providing massages to help relieve pain (Teresa demonstrated particular massages George could do and we confirmed which I liked the best and the pressure I liked so George would know before the birth)
  • Keeping eye contact with each other to reassure mom that all is good, sometimes words are not needed
  • If it happened that the nurse, I had didn’t suit George can request for another nurse, he can ask for people to be silent in the room (staff included)
  • He could turn down the lights if they are too bright
  • He can play my favourite music
  • Basically, he will be the one who controls the atmosphere of the room with guidance and requests from mom

We had no idea about any of the above options. Instantly I felt more at ease about the birthing process. I had mentioned to Teresa I do not like hospitals and was worried how I would react arriving there. Thank goodness I have never had to stay in a hospital so the whole idea of it is alien to me. It’s nice we can make the room as homely as we can by having control over the above.

We practiced some exercises called eye gazing where it is to promote connection and intimacy between partners. We really liked it. We stared into each other left eye without saying anything, just looking into the eye. Then after a while as we kept eye contact, we mentioned 3 things we loved about each other, 3 things that we were most excited about and 3 reasons why we loved our baby. It was really special to take time out like this to just focus on each other because things can get out of control and the bond between partners can be stretched & pulled in different directions as time gets closer to baby arriving. When the baby arrives, you want to feel as close as ever to your partner but without truly taking time out to connect the bond can overly stretch and cause lonliness in a relationship. We do not want this to happen and really feel by just taking 3 minutes every day to connect is super powerful and will definitely help with build a stronger relationship after birth & help encourage intimacy when it feels right for both partners.

 

It’s important for the partners to know that the mother will go through several emotional waves after birth and that they should be mindful of what they say and who comes to visit. This is where the partner is great help. They can be the ones who text family when labour begins, they can be ones who tell family & friends that mom and baby are resting and to call back next week.

 

Teresa’s prenatal partners workshop was insightful for both of us. We learned a lot & felt reassured about the birth experience & our roles during the experience. The bonus from this workshop were the exercises Teresa showed us to help keep & build our strong connection after the baby arrives. After all we both love each other so much & we want to keep that bond even when we are sleep deprived & not feeling like ourselves. Something as simple as kind words of encouragement & eye contact can make all the difference. Our relationship with each other is just as important as our relationship with our new baby girl. My aim as a new mom is to show as much love to my baby & husband as possible because we all need love, support, respect and encouragement through times of change. No one should be left on the outside or feel not as important as another in our little unit of 3.

 

We would highly recommend incorporating a doula somewhere throughout your prenatal experience to prepare yourself as much as possible for during & after birth. We have decided not to have a doula present for our first birth as we want to see how everything goes with just us & the midwives.

 

Let us know your thoughts on the above and if you would recommend a doula for your first birth or not? We would love to hear your feedback.

 

I hope you enjoyed the above.

 

As always feels free to leave any comments.

 

Thanks for taking the time to read this blog.

 

Chat soon,

 

Theresa xxx

The Second Trimester: A Personal Experience

Here we are on the edge of entering into the third trimester of our first pregnancy. A good time to take a moment and reflect on the past few months and document the personal experiences along the way.

 

Overall pregnancy for me has been a positive and gradual change. Honestly there hasn’t been any major dramas or changes that were overwhelming to deal with. Changes are slow and steady, just what we need when our bodies are changing shape, hormones are being produced, extra blood created and a little human growing inside.

 

Before getting pregnant I had a completely different perception of what pregnancy would feel like. Uncomfortable, large, sweaty, swollen, tired & different. These are some of the words I would have used to describe how I would predict I would feel during this experience. The reality is none of these apply…..yet! Right now, I am really enjoying the whole experience and living each day as it comes. Sure, towards the end, all of the above may apply but I want to remember that that was just the end, a small percentage of the time. I think sometimes we can remember the not so great parts of an experience better than the regular everyday “how it really was” parts. This is one of the major reasons I wanted to document my experience so I can pass on my experience to other new moms and my daughter in the future. We need to document how pregnancy really is so we can create an accurate picture of the whole experience instead of just the later not so great part, a tiny portion of the journey.

 

The following is a memoir of my second trimester, the highs and lows and how we (myself & George) dealt with everything that came our way.

 

The first major exciting event for us in the second trimester was seeing our baby for the second time. The ultrasound this time round was far more detailed and we got to see our baby’s heartbeat, legs, arms, feet, hands, spine, head and all the facial features. At first our baby was shy and was facing towards my spine so all we could see was the back of the body and a side profile. The technician asked us to go for a walk so that the baby would turn around as she needed to take photos of the baby facing away from the spine. After our walk the baby moved and we could see it from a different angle which was really nice. The baby was super active and was moving and kicking the whole time. It was really funny & emotional seeing the little legs on the screen back kicking my belly and feeling it at the same time……surreal.

 

We were both so happy to hear that our baby looked healthy and had a strong heartbeat. We had decided we wanted to find out the sex but were disappointed that day as the technician could not tell us. She would pass the scans along to our midwife and they would tell us. That meant we had to wait another week. Disappointing but not the end of the world. Just relieved our baby was so healthy looking.

 

After the scan George and myself went for a cup of tea and a sweet in an afternoon tea café called “The Secret Garden” and we were both beaming looking at the baby pictures from the scan. We both had to go back to work after so it was nice to have that time together before going back to real life.

The weeks leading up to the scan were a little bit stressful as we got a positive result back from our genetic screening test that meant I needed to get additional tests to confirm if our baby had down syndrome or not. Apparently 80% of women who take a 1st genetic screening test get a positive result but only about 10% or less of those babies would have a genetic defect.

 

At first, I was not worried because the odds were so low but as time went on it was the only thing I could think about. The worry if our child did have down syndrome, what would we do? We would have to research a lot about raising a child with down syndrome and connect with other families who had down syndrome children, find professionals to explain how having a child with downs would be different and how we would have to adapt. It took 2 weeks to get the results back from the second screening and those 2 weeks I have to say were emotionally hard. Of course, everyone wants their baby to be born healthy and free from any genetic defects. However, the reality of life is we have no control. It was completely out of our hands and for those 2 weeks myself & George really did have to come to terms with the fact that we may be having a baby with down syndrome.

 

First of all, we both had made the decision very early in the pregnancy that no matter what kind of baby we have we would be keeping our child & abortion or termination would never be an option for us. This is a totally personal choice and not associated with religious or spiritual believes, it was just our choice. We confirmed this decision when we got our genetic results back. Georges reaction to the news was so comforting, it wasn’t even an option for him that we would ever give up our baby. Nothing changed in those 2 weeks about how we felt about our child. We both loved the little human so much already that we couldn’t imagine losing it. The connection was there and no matter what, we wanted to parent this child, even if the road might be a little different or more difficult than what we had first imagined.

 

We finally got the call from our midwife at 7:30pm on a Thursday to confirm that our baby did not have down syndrome and that we no longer needed to worry about it. Honestly, I was so relieved. I cried. Going through this experience was a huge eye opener for both of us. Right away it puts life into perspective. The little worries you may have on a daily basis fade away and all that matters is your child and your family. How can we provide the best for our child and how we as parents can cope with unexpected news. It was definitely a growing experience for us and one that personally I won’t forget.

Life can turn all your expectations upside down in minutes, it’s how we deal with this unexpected change is what’s important. This is something I want to keep close to my heart for the rest of our lives as our child for sure will test us in ways we will never even imagine. This experience has thought me to be open, to not be cemented into my own expectations of what my child will be, we as parents really hope that we will let our child be whoever it wants to be without placing our ideals & expectations of what our child should be onto it.

Even though those 2 weeks were emotionally though, I wouldn’t change a thing as what we gained from that experience was invaluable. When I told my parents that there may be a chance, we may have a child with down syndrome my mother automatically responded saying that down syndrome children are wonderful. That’s who I want to be for my child.

 

The next big memorial moment from the second trimester was when we found out about the sex of our baby. We really didn’t care wether our baby was a boy or a girl. We wanted to find out so we could refer to it by he or she and not by it! We are those people who could not wait until the birth to find out the sex. We needed to know. We were told after our second scan that our midwife would call us in a week or so to let us know about the sex. However, we didn’t get a call and I followed up with our midwife to see why and they had made an error on the ultrasound forms and forgot to tick the box that we wanted to know the sex of the baby.

 

However, because we had done the 2nd screening for the genetic testing they can tell by those blood samples whether our baby was male or female. It took a few extra days but we got the call from our midwife around 11:00am midweek to let us know we were having a little baby girl. That moment I was on my break from work on my regular 30min walk. I was so happy! It felt like a real surprise as everyone was convinced, I was having a boy, even my dentist! Lol! George was certain we were having a boy, apparently, he could feel it in his bones! So funny! He is from a family of boys so the idea of a girl was alien to him.

 

Straight away I couldn’t wait to tell him…..he was in a work retreat that day and I could not get through to him until the end of day. When I told him, it was a girl he was so surprised! It was so great to hear him thinking out loud of how he was going to be a father to a little girl. “I don’t know how to deal with little girls” was his reply, I was laughing so hard and told him he would have to learn. He was so happy! Again, our expectations were turned on their heads. We only had boys’ names picked and had no idea of girl’s names. Our little girl is testing us so much and she isn’t even born yet! It was the best surprise yet. Now we could call our baby our little girl.

Over the 3 months in this semester I felt great. I had lots of energy and was trying to get in my 10,000 steps a day, going to a prenatal yoga class at the weekends and snow shoeing here and there when I could. I love moving and walking was my preferred choice of exercise throughout my whole pregnancy so far. Being outside and moving makes me feel so good and I really think our baby likes it. Before my 11am and 2pm break in work baby begins to move and kick as if she is telling me it’s time to go for your walk, get up and go! I have the same routing in work, I go for walks on my breaks just to get energy following and get outside in the fresh air.

 

Don’t get me wrong I would not be up for going on major hikes like what we would normally do but walking along the beach and up moderate hills feels good. Elevation is where I really feel the difference in my breath while being pregnant. I’m much slower going up the tougher hills than I used to be but I am pregnant so I just take it slow;-)

 

Emotionally I would say I have been stable throughout so far. I believe George will agree! Lol! The one thing that I really have to work on is getting my iron levels up, a common problem in pregnant women, except my Iron levels are extremely low and I may need transfusions closer to the end if I cannot get the levels up. Right now, I am on 300mg of iron a day and take it in the evenings as it is supposed to absorb better at night. Fingers crossed the levels rise. Even though the iron levels are really low, I am feeling great, I don’t feel tired and forget I am pregnant sometimes, until I go tie my shoes or move too fast to turn in bed and my belly muscles start telling me to slow it down.

 

Food wise we have been eating really well and haven’t been craving anything weird. We are eating lots of whole foods. I love to cook and really love cooking healthy, hearty meals that are tasty. I believe this is probably helping with how I feel too. Food is so important to help nourish mommy, daddy & baby. Both of us haven’t been sick at all during the pregnancy either so we are doing well.

 

Meditation is something we do every day in the mornings but since becoming pregnant I have been drawn to it even more. Yoga Nidra is something I had never tried before pregnancy and now it is a class I look forward to every week. My friend Aisling provided a 6-week course of Yoga Nidra sessions for 1 hour on a Sunday at 6pm. I looked forward to Sunday evenings just to get that hour to fully relax and meditate. Her new class series begins again this week and I cannot wait.

 

The below are some other little highlights of the second trimester:

 

  • Feeling our baby kick for the first time and every day after (around 20-21 weeks)
  • Choosing our babies name which we love so much but wont’ reveal to anyone until she is born
  • George reading our babies first book to her every night. I swear she stops moving when she hears her Daddy read. The first book we bought her was of course on Irish Mythology
  • Sourcing the stroller, bassinet, car seat and chair from Facebook market place (a blog coming soon on what we bought and why)
  • Starting to read some books on how to plan for the 3 months after the baby arrives (will give the list of all books I read in the third trimester blog)
  • Asked my Mum to come over to help with baby once George goes back to work after taking 2 weeks off…. super excited as my parents have not been in Vancouver for about 6 years…. we go home every year

 

 

Overall the second trimester was a hugely positive experience and we learned so much about being a parent already. We are looking forward to the next phase and what it may bring. We are enjoying each day as it comes and trying to savour our time together as a couple before our world is changed forever. A duo becomes a trio, a family.

 

Thank you so much for reading.

 

If you would like to share anything please do.

 

Have a great week.

 

Chat soon,

 

Theresa xx

The First Trimester: A Personal Experience

For the past couple of years, I have been tracking my period on a monthly basis. Logging in my bullet journal the date my period started and the date it ended. The reason why I started doing this was to understand my body and my emotions better. The week before my period I would crave sweets, be moody as hell and generally not be myself. By logging my period, I prepared myself for the changes and understood why I was craving certain foods and feeling a bit sad. It was so better knowing it was my hormones and not me who was the crazy one.

To make a long story short my cycle was exactly 26 days each month. It’s crazy how like clockwork my period would arrive. When myself & George were in Cuba on holidays and my period did not show I knew there was something up. We wanted to get pregnant but just couldn’t believe that it happened so soon! Believe me I am not complaining and I know how lucky I am, still I felt a little un prepared.

Before leaving for our month trip to Cuba and Argentina I went to see our Doctor to explain to him that we were planning on having children in the near future. I was looking for his advice on how should I prepare my mind & body before getting pregnant. He mentioned 2 things, to take folic acid and to avoid getting pregnant in Cuba (something about catching the Ezekiel Virus there).  I purchased the folic acid and was actually pregnant already so I didn’t really break any of his rules. Lol!

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Taking a snooze in the middle of the day in Mendoza, this was one of those emotional, I want to go home days…So unlike me!

After the first week in Cuba we knew I was pregnant, no period and my boobs were sore and swollen. We decided not to take a pregnancy test until we got back to Vancouver a few weeks later, as we wanted to confirm the news in our own home.

During the first month on holidays I experience a few moments of slight queasiness particularly after eating eggs. I stopped eating eggs and the queasiness occurred less. To say I have a sweet tooth is an understatement, at any other time in my life Buenos Aires would have been a dream come true, cakes and sweets on every corner. My body obviously was not having any of it as cake made me queasy. (let’s hope it continues after pregnancy…best diet ever!)

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In my PJ’s at 6:00pm reading a great book, fell asleep sitting up! So funny how I had no control over how tired I felt in the evenings. Out like a light. George always ready to take snaps of his sleeping wife!

Foods I craved in the first Trimester were hummus, beans, lentils (We are vegetarian), any plant-based protein really and lots of vegetables. Honestly my diet improved in the first trimester. My appetite increased and I was gaining weight. In the first trimester I gained 7 lbs.

Emotionally I definitely was not myself. On holidays I occasionally felt anxious to get back to Canada and would have little moments of panic to go back home to Ireland or Vancouver. This is extremely strange for me as I am not one to panic, I couldn’t really explain it. My personality was off, George would ask “are you a bit out of sorts?” I couldn’t explain it better myself, I would have moments or periods of feeling a bit out of sorts, not sad, mad, happy or anything in specific just a bit bland. Again, not like me.

My energy levels changed too. I was tired so early in the evenings. I would want to go to bed at 7:00pm. However, in the morning & during the day I had my normal high energy levels. I really don’t have much to complain about as I didn’t have morning sickness and I could go to work as normal after returning from a month holiday. I really did feel good.

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Normally I would do my exercise in the evenings, usually a Vinyasa or kundalini yoga class where I could build strength and sweat, this changed and has remained so since I got pregnant. In the first trimester I was so tired in the evening that I couldn’t think of exercise. The only exercise I got in was my 1 hours walk on my lunch break every day. It’s something.

Usually I would take photos for my Instagram account, work on my blog during free time in the evenings and at weekends but I lost all drive to work on these areas of my life. Its only now in my second trimester that I want to go back working on my blog and Instagram. Honestly, I just lost all interest in those projects I cannot explain why but I did.

The above are all the changes I personally went through and cannot be compared to any other experience as we are all so different. With the above changes there were some really cool moments in the first trimester too.

Highlights of the first trimester:

  • Deciding to call our baby Pebble until its born
  • Seeing the positive result on the pregnancy test
  • Seeing our baby for the first time at our first scan at 11 weeks
  • Hearing the babies heart beat at 11 weeks
  • Telling our parents, the happy news
  • Telling our brothers & sisters the happy news
  • Telling our friends, neighbours and relatives the happy news
  • Receiving so much love and well wishes from everyone who we told
  • Meeting my midwife for the first time (I was on a waiting list so I was relived & happy to meet Clare)
  • Hearing our babies heart beat at 13 weeks
  • Thankful I could still fit into most of my clothes at the end of the trimester (delaying buying maternity clothes for as long as I can)
  • Both of us deciding we want to find out the sex at the next scan
  • Seeing how excited George is throughout the whole process & how much he loves Pebble already

 

We would love to hear about your experience or any great advise you would have for new parents!

 

Have a great week,

 

Chat soon,

 

Theresa xx