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Finding Space to Think & Hear My Thoughts

I sit writing this blog perched on my bed with a cushion under my laptop & me sitting upright in a crossed-legged position in front of the cushion. Its 8:43 am and we have finished breakfast and baba is ready to have her morning playtime. Usually, it would be mama who plays with baba while dada goes to work. However, its Saturday and dada is home. I have decided to take 30-40 minutes of alone time in the bedroom to write. Just as I write the first 3 words of this blog I hear the excited breathing of my 9-month-old crawling towards the open bedroom door. A little scratch on the door to push it open and she appears with the biggest brightest smile. She found mama. It’s so hard to resist such a cutie, the love I feel for her is so strong it’s hard not to pick her up & go play with her. However, I have learned over the past 10 months that I must carve out a little time or space for me to think, read or write every day. This time however it failed as baba wanted her mama.

Our little girl is almost 10 months old; she is still very much attached to me. I am still nursing her and will continue until she is 12 months. Until then she will still be very attached to me. As a new mom, I have found the lack of personal time the hardest thing. The interrupted sleep I can deal with, it’s not having the opportunity to turn off or reset when I want to is the hardest. I run by baby schedule, which changes all the time & keeps me on my toes. The only thing I can do is accept this and know that I will get my quiet time back someday and to comprise a little until then.

Quiet time for me can be just 5 minutes being left alone. That can be 5 minutes in the bath, drinking my tea really slow, reading, sitting and doing nothing, staring into space & having the capacity to let thoughts pop up. These are the moments that I miss, however, I have been trying to intentionally fit small snippets into my day so I can breathe, take note of where I am, what I am doing, how I am feeling and basically being aware of that moment of time.

One thing that is guaranteed in my day is my daily walk. My walk is a ritual that I prefer to save for myself & my sleeping baba. I prefer to savour this time for me. I prefer not to meet people for a chat on my walk as I use it as a time to think, clear my head and just be aware of my mood, my body & my surroundings. It may seem unsocial & it is but I need it. Others may crave the opposite they need human connection & to chat to feel better, I’m not like that, quite the opposite, I like to be alone and think things through myself. It makes me come across as a little bit unsocial at times. To be clear I am a very social person but there is a time and a place for me. Being social with people I need to be in the right headspace, to get there I need space to decompress before meeting others.

Once evening comes and baba is in bed, I am wrecked physically & mentally. My ritual is to make a pot of camomile tea and have a treat. I savour this simple moment before moving forward with the evening. I like to sit in silence for at least 10minutes before chatting George. I usually have 2 hours in the evening before bed to unwind. My favourite ways to unwind are to read, play a board game or watch a funny tv show. For now, my evenings are spent inside as baba takes a while to really settle down to sleep, I’m the only person who can settle her right now.

Our baby is still very much dependent on me and because of that the freedom of doing what I want when I need it is not available. Lately, I have been dreaming about going to a yoga/mediation retreat in some warm place to rest & relax. Perhaps the reason for this is because I watched “Eat Pray Love” recently or its because I really need rest. I know this period of my baby’s development is short and she will sleep through the night and will need her father more in the very near future. For now, small snippets of peace & silence will do & I will try fit them in as many places as possible. Dreaming of future silent retreats in sunny destinations will also help. My aim moving forward is to keep my daily habits of walking by myself & meditating 15 minutes a day, to this I will add as many minutes as possible of quiet alone time to do nothing. Wish me Luck;-)

 

Thanks for reading,

 

Chat soon,

 

Theresa xxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We Are Each Others Strength

As thousands around the world die, the news tells us that the situation in British Columbia is looking up a little as the curve begins to settle.

This is good news but I write to implore everybody to remain vigilant. We must remain strong for the person standing next to us. We must be the shoulder to cry on and the rock to support them. We must remain close to those we love by staying away.

This situation is not likely to end soon, our patience and resolve will wane but it is those moments of weakness that we find our true strength. It is when we are about to fall that we find the greatest strength deep within ourselves to remain standing and fight on.

We must stand strong for each other when the strength of the person next to us dips. We will be there to hold them up because we know they will be there to hold us up when our strength dips.

When we stay inside, when we are lonely, when we cross the street because we see someone walking towards us, when we tune into the news to hear the death toll rising, that is when we must look within ourselves and each other. We can support each other from a distance. We can smile across the street or the alleyway. Just listen to the noise every night at 7pm when complete strangers join to cheer from their balconies and wave to each other.

We have the strength to carry ourselves through this but we also have the strength to carry each other through this so let us stand strong and stand together by maintaining our distance and maintaining our resolve.

This is our chance to prove that we are not to be remembered as a generation of polluters of the planet, slaughterers of animals and as violent misfits who are constantly in conflict. This is our chance to be remembered as the generation who pulled together in a time of great loneliness. The generation who stood strong and defended each other no matter what race, religion or culture we come from. We will be remembered as survivors who did what we had to do so our generation would pull through and rebuild our economy carry on. We will endure.

This situation will not last forever. When you see your friend struggle, be there to take some of the load, remind them that we must stay strong and stay resolute in our determination to beat this disease. Short term isolation does not have to be long term loneliness. We are all there for each other.

Peace,

George

Finding Your Passion

Are you one of those people who knew what they wanted to do from the age of 5 and pursued it? Have you always known that one day your passion would become your work or vice versa? I always admired people who knew very early on what they were born to do. For the majority of my life, I had no clue, I wanted to be & do everything. I could imagine myself in every job but just couldn’t figure out that one job that I would LOVE to work at for the rest of my life.

Up until recently (30ish years old) I had no clue but now after many years of study, working and travel I believe I have found my calling. Practising yoga has changed both myself & my husband’s lives. If we could teach full time and earn a living from it this would be our full-time careers but alas that is not possible for us right now. I am not saying we will never do it, it’s just we need to put those dreams & aspirations a little further forward in the future.

Why do I say this? Because we are practical people. We both have steady jobs, a daughter and a lovely lifestyle which we are happy with. We need to invest more time, money and education into our dream before getting there. We are on the path but just at the beginning, we are determined to make our dream a reality but slow & steady wins the race.

We both love teaching & are passionate about the yoga practice. We love the physical aspect of the practice but more so the study & personal reflections it involves. To us, yoga is a way of life, a set of guidelines to live our most authentic & happiest of lives. It has helped us simplify our life and in turn, has created a life which we both feel content & happy no matter what stage we are at. We love the idea of aiming to be the best versions of ourselves & to not let negative emotional or mental boundaries get in our way. We are realists and know that to get to work in an area you are passionate about requires hard work & planning. We are still at this stage but each day we work towards our long-term goal.

Finding our passions didn’t just come to us, we had to search, reflect and work damn hard to be able to find our passions. George had always thought of writing but never thought it was feasible or even possible to ever do that until one day he decided he would write. He made time to write each day. Starting with short stories, which lead to larger stories which lead to a novel…. then another novel. He didn’t give up his day job or run away to some fancy retreat to write, he got up earlier in the morning, he stopped watching TV and he wrote instead. His first novel was accepted by a publishing house in NY city and goes to print this month. Even if it doesn’t sell it’s a huge achievement regardless.

I always wanted to know how to cook but never truly gave myself the time to do so. Then one day I decided to start a blog about cooking (private account), I cooked about 2-3 meals each week at the beginning and documented how they went on my personal blog. I took a vegan cooking course; I began posting meals on Instagram & Facebook. I love cooking and baking and have made time to work on this passion. Hopefully, someday I can combine yoga & cooking and live the dream. Every day gets us closer.

We may not have known our true passions when we were young but now, we do. It took us several years of trying lots of different interests, self-exploration & reflection to find our passions. So if you are thinking “I have no passion”, or you don’t know what you would love to do in your spare time, I say go try anything and keep trying different activities, crafts, courses etc. until you find something you want to work on. Who knows eventually that something may lead to a passion you may never want to stop. Go out there and try.

 

Thanks so much,

Chat soon,

Theresa xxx

Covid-19: Our Thoughts

Up until a week ago, Covid-19 virus had a small impact on our daily life. Apart from being super aware of washing & sanitizing our hands and staying clear of overpopulated areas, life was pretty much the same. What a difference a week can make.

Social distancing is in full effect. What does this mean to us? It means we are not meeting with our friends, avoiding public places, bars, restaurants, fitness classes, favourite café’s & limiting our grocery shopping to once a week at quiet times. Luxuries like haircuts, waxing, massage & acupuncture have been cancelled.

George will be working from home. Thankfully he still has work as the construction industry is still moving forward with projects. Currently, I am on maternity leave and will be until July 2nd, hoping the pandemic will be complete by then. Fingers crossed.

Skype calls to our family back home in Ireland are consumed with chat about the covid-19 virus. Mostly all positive as Irish people we like to use humour in times of stress. However, it is strange that family members cannot visit one another. It is a relief that they are all safe and are taking the safety measures seriously.

It’s interesting in times like these how we react to crisis situations. We have seen the effects of over buying in our grocery stores. Shelves are empty not because of high demand but because people are over buying unnecessary items such as toilet paper out of fear of running out. Toilet paper of all things!

The news & social media can be very informative but also one of the biggest agents for creating fear among the masses. It is constantly feeding us misinformation, showing the ugly side of us, promoting the sense of lack instead of abundance, showing the fear instead of the courage, highlighting the bad instead of the good. I am not saying that we should be fed only good news (not a bad idea) but more of a balance so people can remain balanced and not one-sided.

This weekend, for example, we have seen so much good from people in our neighbourhood. A neighbour a few blocks away from us had free toilet paper on their lawn and a sign saying “take one, if you NEED one”, this is the kindness we need to be shown daily so people can learn from it and follow this example.

Our neighbour just 2 doors down left out enough non-perishable’s goods on our common room table to ensure everyone has food.

Posters are up around Kitsilano from people offering help to go grocery shopping & errands for the high-risk population. These acts of kindness are happening everywhere, I personally would like to hear more about them. They are super inspiring and motivates us to help too.

Inspirational bloggers & Instagrammers are offering support in ways they can via free mediation & yoga classes. These are great services for people to help cope with increased anxiety & fear.

We have quite a few old people in our building. One of the men fought in WW2, Leonid is 96 years old. He still goes out for his walks every day. Judy who lives across from us was born & raised in Vancouver, such a beautiful lady with the most amazing balcony garden. These are at-risk people & we are responsible for keeping them safe just as much as ourselves.

We were so delighted to see signs go up in our building ensuring that management has increased the sanitization of all doorknobs, lift panels, laundry rooms to help combat the spread of germs. They also noted if anyone needs help with anything to reach out to them. Kindness is such a wonderful gift. Seeing those signs made me feel so happy & confirmed that we do care.

On our daily walks, we notice more people are out enjoying the sunshine and they seem content, children are playing & are riding their bikes, so many people make eye contact and smile as we pass by, the human connection feels strong. I really don’t think I am imagining this. It’s almost like people are giving each other the nod as we are all in the same boat.

The future is uncertain over the next few months, uncertainly about finances, our health, our family’s health etc. are all at the forefront of our minds, however, it is encouraging to hear that governments recognise that people are out of work & they are creating new legislation to help support people financially. We are all going to be affected by this pandemic, some more than others. I believe we need to keep our best side out for those people who are in dire straights, they need our help, support and hope. Hope is what we all need, not doom & gloom. Turn off the TV, get outside for fresh air (by yourself or with household members only), call a friend, smile at a stranger,

Facebook groups have been set up to support people who are out of work as a result of the virus which has directly affected so many people around us. Yoga teacher friends, friends in the housing & rental business, friends who own a café, friends who work in the gym, actor friends…. all of these people are now jobless until this virus goes. For those of us privileged enough to still have jobs and our health we have a further responsibility of reaching out and supporting our friends as much as possible. Even if it’s just chatting over the phone, we cannot have people thinking they are alone.

The elderly are the most at-risk group, it is our duty to ensure we are abiding by all the social distancing protocol to keep our elders safe and healthy. All we need to do is keep to ourselves for the next while (could be months) which is not a huge ask.

Our aim over the next few months is to take each day as it comes, look for the positives with each new day; like

  1. We still have our health
  2. Our families are still healthy
  3. The weather is beautiful
  4. The cherry blossoms are blooming
  5. The birds are singing……….

Let’s keep our heads up and push through the next few months, all of this will end we just have to sit it out. We are all in this together. Reach out, help & do your bit for humankind by keeping your physical distance.

 

Keep safe.

Chat soon,

Theresa xxxx

Our Top Tips for Travelling with a Baby: As a Couple & Solo

We brought our baby girl of 5 months back to Ireland, our home, for 6 weeks during Christmas. We currently live in Vancouver, Canada. Unfortunately, there are no direct flights to Dublin from Vancouver during the Winter.

Our first tip would be to book your flights early especially if you are planning on travelling a long-distance during holiday seasons. We did not book our flights early enough & paid through the roof for flights. Learn from our mistake. We flew with Air Canada and had to call them after booking our flights to inform them that we would be travelling with our baby. They booked us into bassinette seats, which meant more leg room & a bassinette which attached to the wall for the baby. We would not do this again. Our baby sleeps on her belly so the bassinette was a no go, she would not go into it at all. In addition, the bassinette seats are by the toilets so there are constantly people and noise by the seats. We are lucky that our baby loves white noise which blocked it all out for her, she slept the whole flight (11 hours). However, for myself, it was a further distraction from trying to get some sleep (did not happen).

Honestly, we will be booking a seat for baby from now on, just for the comfort of the long journey. She is more mobile now and needs more space. Yes, it’s more expensive but it’s worth every penny for an easier flight.

Our next tip would be, bring only what you need. Make a list of the must-have items for each person travelling and use this as a checklist. Check in the majority of your luggage (1 suitcase per person worked for us) Only bring the essentials as carry on and avoid having to carry lots of bags. Our essential list for carry on luggage is:

  • Stoller (Brilliant to use in the airport & a must for the baby when at your destination, the airline crew will store the stroller just as you are boarding the flight & it will be waiting for you as you exit the flight at your destination)
  • Baby carrier (arms get tired carrying baby up & down the aisle, handy in the airport too)
  • Changing bag with diapers etc.
  • Change of clothes for baby & parents just in case child poo’s or vomits everywhere
  • Baby food & bottles depending on if that applies
  • 1 -2 toys (empty water bottles entertained our child so she needed very little toys)
  • Mini travel kit for emergencies (Band-Aids, baby Advil etc.)
  • Snacks & Reusable water bottle(We are vegan & vegetarian so we bring our own snacks just in case we don’t like what’s on offer, the water bottle was constantly refilled by the aircrew which was great)

We managed to fit everything under the stroller & 1 backpack so it meant our time in the airport was not stressful and this worked really well when I had to travel solo on the way back with a baby.

Next tip would be to ensure you are completely packed the night before leaving & returning. Be organised, have as little stress the morning/day of flying. Nothing eliminates stress more than being prepared. Ensure you have passports in an easily accessible bag, have your ride to & from the airport arranged & confirmed, know what terminal you fly out from…. eliminate the stress of forgetting something by being prepared the day before. Nothing is worse than trying to pack under pressure with a baby.

If you can, book yourself into an airport lounge. They may be a little pricey but if you have a long layover or arrive at the airport super early like us, the lounge is a nice area to relax. They generally have showers, food, drinks & comfy chairs. Also, great changing areas for babies.

Next tip, look to see if the airport you travel from has a breastfeeding/bottle feeding room. We used this in Dublin airport on the way back & it was amazing. It’s a private room with comfy chairs for feeding and a microwave if you need to heat milk or food. Highly recommend. This is a cool service.

Finally, as you are checking in your bags ask the person at the desk if the flight is busy if not ask if you could be seated in a row where nobody else is seated. I did this on our way back as the flight was very quiet. We got a whole row of 4 seats just for us. It was great as baby could play and had lots of room to stretch out. It’s always worth asking, it rarely happens on short flights but it’s better to ask, we always do this even before the baby arrived.

The above is our top tips & which we will do for every flight moving forward. Keep it simple and the experience goes much smoother. We hope this was helpful. If you would like to share your tips we would love to hear them.

Thanks so much,

Chat soon,

Theresa