We often set our sights on a task, something that we want to achieve in life, for example, to take yoga teacher training and teach regular classes. This was certainly not an insurmountable goal but it was not possible without believing it could be done. I am a civil engineer. What business does a civil engineer working in the construction industry have in teaching yoga? That was my thought process but that had to change. I had to believe I would teach yoga.
External circumstances do not dictate the ultimate direction of our lives. We have the power to go where we want to go. We have the power to steer our lives in the direction we want to steer it, we just have to realize that. We can achieve whatever we want to achieve, once we believe it.
Ask yourself. What do you know to be true about yourself? What are your limitations? What holds you back?
Now go back to those questions again. What holds you back? Nothing. There are no limitations. What are you reaching for? If it’s out of reach and you can’t grasp it, then build a ladder.
In other words, do the work.
The material is there for you to build a bridge, build a ladder and climb up and reach for the stars.
You just have to realise it and believe in yourself. The moment you doubt whether you can fly, you cease for ever to be able to do it.
Have you heard of the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset? Fixed mindsets are limited, an example being, “I can’t do this,” whereas you could counter that with a growth mindset by telling yourself, “I can’t do this….yet.” The difference is in the belief that the inability is not permanent. It can be changed and you are in control.
When we praise a child for being smart we are working with a fixed mindset.
We do not succeed because we are good at something, we succeed because we have worked hard to be good at something. The belief that we can and will succeed encourages us to put in the work to eventually get where we want to be. Not because we are good at it but because we have worked hard to become good at it.
Our thoughts control us. We are what we believe we are. If we believe we are kind we will be kind, if we believe we are strong we will be strong. If we believe we can win we will win….eventually.
We need to dig deep to find that inner strength. There are so many layers that we can peel away to access what is buried within ourselves, within our soul, close to where our true selves lie. That is where our true intentions, our true beliefs, our true personality can be found.
There is no fooling that true self. There is no denial and no way to lie to our true selves. That aspect of ourselves will see right through the bullshit because it is sitting there at the back of it all watching.
We can dig deep physically to find that belief in ourselves, but we can also dig deep into thoughts and mind by sitting with ourselves and exploring the silence, looking inward and really seeing where we are at and what we are capable of.
We can achieve what we want to achieve.
We can look deep inside, like searching in a black well of nothingness to find a treasure deep within us which will guide us. That is the true self, it is belief and knowledge in our capabilities.
We want to work, we love to work. We want to sweat and fight and work through the back-breaking, painstaking labour to get to our destination, but why do we do that work? We do it because we believe. We know we can get there.